Author: ladyforgive

I am a mother that fiercely loves her children. I also am a wife that strives to give 100% - I love my husband, and he is good to me, and sometimes I still have to be intentional with trust. I started this site to heal myself. If I can help someone else heal along the way, then bonus!

God’s Got This

There are many devices in a man’s heart, But the counsel of Jehovah, that shall stand – Proverbs 19:21 ASV

I can’t tell you how many years I lived in fear.

I lived in fear at previous jobs:

What would happen if someone else screws up and then tries to blame it on me? How am I ever going to prove them wrong? I don’t always do things perfectly, I just do my best.

I lived in fear with friends:

What if I am spending all of this time in this group of people and they really don’t care about me? As soon as something happens, where they don’t need me anymore, I feel like they are just going to get rid of me. All of that hard work of making friends gone. And even worse – they are going to tell others just how bad I am.

I lived in fear with family, worrying the same basic thing:

What if all of this hard work is for nothing? All someone else has to do is open their mouth and all of my good is washed away.

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Perception is Reality

Two people can look at the same thing, and perceive it in two different ways. I believe that the difference between people, and their openness to changing their perception, is their willingness to be open to compassion. It is very important that all of us become willing to accept the fact that our first perceptions may not always be true. Because it is not so much what we see, but how we perceive it, that shapes our thoughts, emotions, and actions about it.

If we see something happening that looks bad at first glance, we as good humans almost have a requirement to seek to understand the situation. Look further. Ask questions – get clarity.

I have a story from last weekend to explain. I was leaving to go to the grocery store and stopped to get the mail. The mailbox cluster faces my backyard and my two boys were in the back with their dog.

All of a sudden I heard my older son screaming at their dog Ben and he looked like he was hitting him. Immediately bad thoughts of what was happening came flooding into my brain. I ran back towards the house and started yelling “What are you doing?”

My older son proceeded to tell me that Ben was eating a dead mouse – he was yelling Ben! No! And attempting to go for his mouth to get the mouse and not knowing what to do. He was frozen in fear, but acting at the same time.

Immediately, my perceptions went from thinking that my older son was doing something wrong to understanding the TRUE REALITY of the situation. My husband came out and got the same understanding and went right back into the kitchen to get something to retrieve the dead mouse from Ben’s mouth.

You can see from the size of Ben that the mouse was no match for him. He is also a Lab, German Shepherd, and Border Collie Mix. He was gonna get that mouse come hell or high water. He has selective listening. It didn’t matter how much my son yelled at him, he wasn’t going to listen.

So I ask you to do these three things the next time you see a situation that looks bad at first glance:

1. Have compassion

2. Ask Questions

3. Do what you can to get clarity.

Thank you.

Following The Ultimate Forgiveness

It is important for me to always remember that I need to keep myself in check and watch my mouth. No matter how angry I am, I need to take it to prayer.

I need to check myself now. There is no need for me to take my complaints to others on this earth, their is only one entity that I should take them to. GOD. He loves me and he wants only good for me. But he loves everyone else too. He is trying to bring good to everyone. He wants all of us to walk this earth in his image. So I need to tame my tongue. Which it appears, for those who know me, is a major work in progress. But if I truly want God to make me all that I was meant to be, then I need to follow ALL of his commandments. And murdering someone else’s image by talking about them is not allowed in his Kingdom.

Today in church they talked about removing the log in your own eye before removing the speck in others. I had that issue A MAJOR ISSUE.

You see, I was blinded by intense anger for a lot of years. There are a lot of reasons for that anger that I won’t go into here. That does’t matter anymore. The reasons for the anger are gone. However, during my darkest times, I was trying to remove specks in other people’s eyes while I was blinded to my own anger (my log). I felt that other people were living selfishly and that they were mean to other people. I tried to call them out. I’m not sure if I was necessarily wrong in my observations; however, the way that I was going about informing other people of the infractions was not useful. I was being judgmental and hurtful and other people just didn’t hear me. ALL THEY SAW WAS AN ANGRY PERSON.

I fell on my sword and crucified myself.

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God Created You for Magic – Don’t Shrink Yourself To Make Others Feel Better or Make Yourself Too Big. Just Be Perfectly You.

God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it. For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. – Ephesians 2:8-10

We don’t have to earn God’s love. He gives it to us unconditionally.

This is how we should treat each other. I challenge you to give 100% to your loved ones. You CHOSE them after all.